S.E.X.

I'll be the first to admit that I am no sex expert. If anything, I'm a single gal expert. Therefore the next few paragraphs which include the word "sex" countless times may be incorrect in many ways. But I'm willing to take a stab at what sex is and how we young people view it today.

Now, we are taught at a very young age that, "sex is sacred" and to only be done with your husband or wife. Well, sex between a man and his wife went out of style some time ago and sex between two people who are in love or a relationship became in style. But the problem is it seems as though that fad is gone too. From my observation and living with some questionable women, sex is nothing but sex--that's it. It's as though we've forgotten the value and importance of intimacy with a person. I suppose it's not the end of the world to look at sex for just that, but based on my own experiences that gets old, fast.

We are so willing and eager really, to have sex with someone we're wildly attracted to. As if sex is the only thing on the agenda when we first meet a person...all the other stuff will come later, right? The problem with just jumping in the sack with someone we hardly know and are crazy attracted to is that we try to turn sex into a relationship. And the likelihood of that happen is just as good as it would be someone reaching the peak of Mt. Everest. Some make it to the top and back safely but the majority of people who attempt the climb only make it half way and give up--you can see the similarities.

So that question I'm posing is why? Why do we deem it necessary to jump someone's bones on the second date? Do we not care about what sex is suppose to mean anymore? It should come with a good relationship, not define it. We've got so caught up in sex without emotion that we've forgotten what it's like to have sex with emotion. I believe the reason for this is because sex with emotion actually means something. It's not just a one-night-stand with zero meaning and an uncomfortable morning after. It's an act that actually brings two people closer together...finally having the opportunity to give yourself to someone; learning someone's body and appreciate it for what it truly is.

So, perhaps we can stop looking at sex as just a lustly act between two people who barley know each other, or is that asking too much?